A few years ago, I got really depressed. Not just my usual sadness or bitchiness, but real-deal, medically diagnosed depression. One of the things that came from this bout of mental anguish was a newfound animosity of my body.
Now, I've never exactly loved my body. We're frenemies at best. But things took a real turn when I gained a whole bunch of weight and had trouble finding happiness in any of the things I used to enjoy. So, instead of feeling happy, I figured "Hey! How about I hate myself?"
Sometimes, I miss the world of random fact memes. You could learn so much about people without actually talking to them!
To go back to those simple days, I thought I'd bring back an old social media classic and tell you a little bit more about me, Amber Petty.
Singing through a song for the first time is hard. Often, when my students get through their first attempt, I can see the disappointment in their eyes. “It just doesn’t sound right.”
This is totally normal. It still happens to me! Even though I’ve been singing for a million years (I’ll be a million and 34 years old in May, if you’d like to send a present), after I sing a song for the first time I always think “Well, that was horrible. Time to seal my lips shut and never sing again.”
Part of the reason we’re all so hard on ourselves is that we’re comparing our first try with a professional singers 47th take. The recording sounds amazing because the singer had time to practice, fit the song to their voice, and use a some studio magic to make it sound perfect. So, your first try is never going to sound like the recording - and that’s okay.
There’s nothing wrong with a nice bath or face mask, but there are a lot of ways to find self-care that don’t involve the bathroom.
For inspiration on non-beauty related self-care, try out all the tips on this handy checklist.
I lived in New York for 13 years and saw a lot of amazing singers. But the singer that I keep thinking about, 7 years after I saw him perform, wasn’t on Broadway or in Madison Square Garden.
He was singing on a Carnival Cruise. In the Karaoke lounge.
When’s a good time to breathe? All the time. End of article.
Okay, that’s true, but I’m specifically talking about deep breathing. Almost Lamaze class breathing, but you don’t need a baby’s head to be popping out of your nethers to do it.
I know that saying “Just Breathe” is about the most useless advice in the history of the world. But when you really breathe, in a deep and focused way, it’s honestly amazing. And here’s four ways to put your powerful breathing abilities to good use.
I used to sit in audition rooms practically pulsing with anger. Everything got on my nerves.
The fact I had to wake up at 5am to sit outside a rehearsal studio - annoying.
The legions of girls with roll-y suitcases squealing every time they saw a dear friend they hadn’t seen since their last audition 36 hours ago - very annoying.
The waiting for hours to either get a chance to sing for 30 seconds or possibly not be seen at all - OH GOD WHY IS THIS MY LIFE CHOICE!
Then, I started knitting.